"Commitment is an act, not a word." - Jean-Paul Sartre Let me be clear here, a guy who is scared of commitment isn’t the same as a commitment Avoidant guy. Steer clear of anyone who is deeply afraid (more than scared) of commitment. I dated a man for two and a half years who would never fully commit even though we spent every major holiday together, he stayed at my house and I stayed at [...]
“ Absence is to love as wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and kindles the great.” – Roger de Bussy-Rabutin There are a ton of tips and tools that go into making a a long distance relationship work, however having been in a number myself I can tell you that there are a few requirements that are a must. Here are 7 tips to help you make your long distance relationship work. 1. [...]
"The more people rationalize cheating, the more it becomes a culture of dishonesty." - Stephen Covey Do you want to know if you should leave your cheating husband or boyfriend? A lot of women come to me asking if they should forgive their cheating husband or boyfriend. They want to know how to get past the betrayal and fix the relationship. It amazes me that they want to know what they can do to make [...]
“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.” - August Wilson Do you know your value? Do you fear that you're never going to find someone who loves you because you're too much trouble, too difficult, too fussy, too depressed, too outspoken, too weird, too whatever? If so, I know how you feel. I always [...]
"All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy." - Scott Alexander There is a misconception that men cheat for sex. Men do not cheat for sex. Men cheat for the same reason that women cheat. They want to feel desired and appreciated. A man's need for appreciation manifests itself differently than ours. Women want to feel understood. Men want to feel desired. Women want [...]
I’m in love with a Warrior. He is a Father. He is a Brother. He is a Son. He is a Marine. In short, he is a Bad-Ass. He is also my Lover and my Best Friend. But, above all, he is a Warrior and accepting the truth of this has made our relationship work. Loving a Warrior is not like loving an ordinary man. You must know this. Loving a Warrior will show you [...]
"Today is Valentine's Day - or, as men like to call it, Extortion Day!" - Jay Leno Why do we even have a Valentine’s Day holiday? Back in the day the Roman church decided that soldiers were more effective when they were unmarried so Claudius II banned marriages. Supposedly there was a Priest named Valentin/Valentinus who decided this was a stupid idea and decided to secretly marry young men and women behind the Emperor's back. [...]
“The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy.” - Jim Rohn There are ways to find and experience true love and there are ways to keep love out. Which do you want? Do you want to put up walls and keep love out or do you want to unlock the key to finding true love and let down your walls? What is a wall? Why do we have [...]
"It is easy to hate and it is difficult to love. This is how the whole scheme of things works. All good things are difficult to achieve; and bad things are very easy to get." - Confucius Love is beautiful. Love is life changing. Love is an emotional high. Love is one of the most amazing experiences a person can ever have. Love brings new awareness and change and butterflies and sex. At the same [...]
"Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek." - Barack Obama Six. That’s how many relationships it took for me to change. You might be wondering what the hell I was doing in each of those if I wasn’t changing after each one. If you think I was avoiding change you would be [...]
