"Today is Valentine's Day - or, as men like to call it, Extortion Day!" - Jay Leno Why do we even have a Valentine’s Day holiday? Back in the day the Roman church decided that soldiers were more effective when they were unmarried so Claudius II banned marriages. Supposedly there was a Priest named Valentin/Valentinus who decided this was a stupid idea and decided to secretly marry young men and women behind the Emperor's back. [...]
"Silence is a true friend who never betrays." - Confucius What goes on in your head when your partner is silent and not paying attention to you? Do you start to freak out if your partner is quiet? Are you able to sit in silence and be comfortable? If your partner is engaged in something and not paying attention to you does it drive you crazy? If you’re in one room and they’re in another [...]
"Remember your dreams and fight for them. You must know what you want from life. There is just one thing that makes your dream become impossible: the fear of failure." - Paul Coehlo Do you know how to ask for what you want from your partner? Do you even know what it is that you want and/or need in a relationship? There are ways to get ask for what you want without being a jerk [...]
"I really think that you have to find a partner that compliments you and is somebody that pushes you and is better at some things than you are, so they can push you to improve yourself as a person." - Ashton Kutcher Who doesn't want the person they are dating to be "The One"? How do you know if they are the one for you or not? There are usually plenty of warning signs when [...]
"Toxic people defy logic. Some are blissfully unaware of the negative impact that they have on those around them, and others seem to derive satisfaction from creating chaos and pushing other people's buttons. " - Travis Bradberry If you're in a toxic relationship you need to escape and I say escape because often you're a prisoner and don't even know it. You've become a prisoner of your own negative beliefs and thoughts because every ounce [...]
"A lover always thinks of his mistress first and himself second; with a husband it runs the other way." - Honore de Balzac Are you a mistress? Have you been a mistress? If so, I'm going to give you ten empowering reasons to avoid being a mistress at all costs. First, let me ask you this. If you have a daughter, or a best friend and she told you she met the love of her [...]
“The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy.” - Jim Rohn There are ways to find and experience true love and there are ways to keep love out. Which do you want? Do you want to put up walls and keep love out or do you want to unlock the key to finding true love and let down your walls? What is a wall? Why do we have [...]
“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”― David Richo Are you over all of the hurt from your past relationships? Do you think you've processed and dealt with the disappointment and the pain? Do you project your fears onto your new partner even though they’ve given you no reason to doubt their sincerity or commitment? Do you constantly worry that they'll cheat or they aren’t being honest [...]
"The task we must set for ourselves is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity." - Erich Fromm For those of you that read my prior post on Insecurity in Relationships on Tiny Buddha this is a follow up. For those who haven't, here is the link:Why You Feel Anxious in Relationships and How To Stop I’m going to share something really painful right now. After 7 months of what I [...]
"If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend." - Henri Nouwen Intimacy is super scary. I admit to being totally scared of it most of the time, but without it you can become a pretty lonely person. What you might not know is the reason why you're so scared of intimacy so I'll break it down a little here. We All Have an Attachment Style I mentioned in a previous [...]
