“If you truly want to be respected by people you love, you must prove to them that you can survive without them.” ― Michael Bassey Johnson What do you do when your boyfriend or husband or even a guy you’re dating pulls away? Do you freak out and do everything in your power to try to get them back? Do you sulk or cry or beg and plead? Or, do you shut down, close out [...]
“Do not swear by the moon, for she changes constantly. then your love would also change.” ― William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet One of Shakespeare’s famous lines from Romeo and Juliet goes like this, “Did my heart ever love till now? Forswear it sight, for I ne’er saw true beauty till this night”. Let’s be honest here. Romeo was like fifteen years old and don't forget he was supposedly in love with Rosaline the day [...]
"If you look for perfection, you'll never be content." - Leo Tolstoy Do you know the most powerful way to save your relationship? Do you think you're being unrealistic with your expectations in your relationship or do you think you're right and your partner is wrong? Do you think you expect too much or your partner just isn't doing enough? Do you think you do all the work and they do nothing? I’ve learned a [...]
"For true love is inexhaustible; the more you give, the more you have. And if you go to draw at the true fountainhead, the more water you draw, the more abundant is its flow." Antoine de Saint-Exupery I used to think that true love meant a guy listen who would listen to me all the time and shared my deepest darkest thoughts anytime, all the time. I used to think it was a guy [...]
"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option." - Mark Twain Some days I wonder, how many times can you give your heart away without return before it breaks for good? How many times can you feel like you give of yourself and get nothing back? How many days can someone feel ignored and pushed away before they go away for good? How many days can someone try to [...]
“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.” - August Wilson Do you know your value? Do you fear that you're never going to find someone who loves you because you're too much trouble, too difficult, too fussy, too depressed, too outspoken, too weird, too whatever? If so, I know how you feel. I always [...]
"Silence is a true friend who never betrays." - Confucius What goes on in your head when your partner is silent and not paying attention to you? Do you start to freak out if your partner is quiet? Are you able to sit in silence and be comfortable? If your partner is engaged in something and not paying attention to you does it drive you crazy? If you’re in one room and they’re in another [...]
“The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy.” - Jim Rohn There are ways to find and experience true love and there are ways to keep love out. Which do you want? Do you want to put up walls and keep love out or do you want to unlock the key to finding true love and let down your walls? What is a wall? Why do we have [...]
"The task we must set for ourselves is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity." - Erich Fromm For those of you that read my prior post on Insecurity in Relationships on Tiny Buddha this is a follow up. For those who haven't, here is the link:Why You Feel Anxious in Relationships and How To Stop I’m going to share something really painful right now. After 7 months of what I [...]
"Attachment and aversion are the root cause of karma, and karma originates from infatuation. Karma is the root cause of birth and death, and these are said to be the source of misery. None can escape the effect of their own past karma." - Mahavira Have you ever heard of attachment styles? If not, I’m going to give you a brief summary of what they are and how they affect every relationship you've had and [...]
