“Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows.” – Pope Paul V
The difference between a Truth and a Belief:
A belief is: an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists.
A truth is: that which is true or in accordance with fact or reality.
But, what is a limiting belief? A limiting belief is a belief that has been instilled in you since childhood or that you have come to believe over the years to be true that limits your view of yourself and the way you interact with the world.
The problem with limiting beliefs is that they aren’t true, they limit you from reaching your full potential (whether in life or love or career or finances) and often you don’t even know you have them. A belief is NOT a truth. Remember the difference.
Due to my childhood sexual abuse I carried around a belief that “men only want me to serve their own purposes”. I didn’t believe this consciously, but it was always there in the back of my mind. As long as I believed it, in any way, shape or form I was going to attract a man who would do that exact thing. So, I did.
One day, I decided that belief wasn’t really a truth and that I could believe something else! Instead of the negative, limiting belief, I could believe that I am a beautiful, sexual, amazing goddess that men flock to and desire because of my intelligence, kindness and warmth and they will want to be with me forever.
Believing something positive removes limitation. Believing something new changes your energy.
What happened next? My ex-boyfriend, who I thought I had made a mistake breaking up with contacted me and wanted to see me again. Changing my belief changed my life. Although that mistake turned out to have not really been a mistake and leaving him really became the best thing that ever happened, the truth is that I had changed myself and I had changed the course of my future relationships.
What are your limiting beliefs about love? What do you tell yourself about love and relationships? Deep down inside what do you think? Do you think there are no good men out there? No one will really ever love you? No one is honest? Every guy cheats? You don’t deserve love?
Think about your belief system. Is it your thought a truth or a belief? Do the things you think about love and relationships serve you or limit you?
If you think or believe (whether consciously or subconsciously) you will never find love what do you think the universe will give you? Nothing. The universe certainly isn’t going to bring you love if you don’t think you deserve it
If you think you will find love and that the right man is out there for you if you keep trying what do you think the universe will give you? Love. Yes, the universe listens to your thoughts whether you know it or not.
The difference between the two thoughts in regard to love are scarcity versus abundance. The first comes out of scarcity and the second comes out of abundance.
If you want to continue to live in scarcity by all means maintain your limiting beliefs, but if you want to live in abundance and have love flowing into your life then get rid of your limiting beliefs and not just on the surface. You have to get rid of them at the very core of your being.
Many people have limiting beliefs about money which are often handed down through generations. Because my father was a blue collar, hard working truck driver my limiting belief was that the only way I could succeed in life was to work really hard and basically kill myself working for others.
I decided THAT isn’t a truth either! It was only something I had learned to believe. I decided I could believe something else. I could believe that money comes to me easily and that I can work for myself and create my own future and my own wealth.
So, first I started working on this blog. A week later my mom had to distribute some money from an annuity so she gave me $2,500. It was from my mom, and I really didn’t work for it, but hey I still manifested money, right?! It was working already!
What do you think about money? Do you think you will never have enough? Do you think you will always struggle? Is money something you have decided cannot possibly come easily?
Of course it is easier for rich people to make money or for those born into wealth to obtain more wealth, but it doesn’t mean you can’t be wealthy. Wealth doesn’t have to mean a private plane and a yacht. Perhaps wealth would be earning $100,000.00 per year and sending your kids through college.
Figure out what your limiting beliefs are about money. Then, decide what you want to believe instead and start believing it.
I’m still struggling with this one, but instead of telling myself I will go nowhere, that I will never be able to succeed on my own, that I need the security of a 9-5 and that this blog won’t change my life I am starting to believe I can create my own reality.
I am telling myself that I will not fail, that even those who do fail do not fail forever and that failure is only a starting point for trying something new. I am losing my limiting beliefs about personal success. Never quit. Failure is not always what it seems to be. Failure in fact is often a road to success.
What do you believe about success? Do you believe you have to work at a 9-5 job continually a slave to a corporation? Do you believe you can’t do anything other than what you are doing now? Remember, this is a belief, not a truth. You can be anything, do anything, create anything.
How do you crush limiting beliefs? First, figure out what they are. Then, just stop believing them. Whenever you start to tell yourself the limiting belief replace it with the opposite. Do it. Over and over and over.
In the end you can stay the way you are and you can maintain your limiting beliefs and live in a world created by others or you can begin to create your own reality and your own world. Which do you think will make you happier?
Change is going to happen whether you want it to or not. Do you want to be an agent for change or do you want to struggle against it?