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Hate Your Job? Pick the Wrong Career? What Next?

“The worst days of those who enjoy what they do are better than the best days of those who don’t” – E. James Rohn

I spent over $125,000.00 going to law school.

Why did I even go to law school?  I went to law school because I’m an ethical person and I thought practicing law would give me a sense of justice.  Wrong. Wrong. Wrong.

I thought I could become a prosecutor in the sex crimes unit and given my background I thought putting away rapists and child molestors would be an awesome thing to do.

So, useless philosophy degree in hand and no idea what else to do with my life I took the LSAT’s and 6 months later I was in law school and had accrued $40,000.00 in debt.

What Now?

To this day I still wonder how I got here.  I wonder how and why I made the choices I made and if they were actually choices at all.

Do you think anyone sat me down and asked, “Are you sure this is the right career choice?” or even, ‘Have you talked to any lawyers to see if they are happy in their jobs”?  NO!  Of course not.  My school didn’t care if I would be happy as a lawyer, they were happy to take my check and send me off to class.

The next 3 years of law school were absolute boredom and mundane routines.  I knew after the first semester that I hated it.  I knew it wasn’t for me, but I kept on going anyway since I didn’t know what else to do.

I trudged on, now over $125,000.00 in debt.  I took the Bar exam because I figured I should.

But, once I passed I realized I was so stressed over the idea of being a lawyer that I quit my law clerk job and went to work in a bridal store because I figured everyone would be happy there and for the most part they were!

Soon after,  it dawned on me, “I really don’t want to practice law”. Despite all the money I had just spent I knew it would make me miserable.

I read a book called “What Color is Your Parachute” and that pretty much sealed the deal.  I was not meant to be a lawyer.  According to the book, the tools and skills needed and my natural inclinations did not match my personality at all.  I couldn’t have picked a worse career path.

If I had taken the time to explore myself before making this massive decision perhaps I wouldn’t have gone to law school.

Choices

Overall, I’m pissed that I wasted so much money becoming a lawyer. I’m not pissed because I have a degree I’m pissed that I wasted my time and my money on something that was never going to make me happy.

I don’t want you to make the same mistake 0r live a life without passion and .

What makes you happy?   Not what your parents want. Not what you think you want.  If you could get up every day and money was no object what would you do?  What drives your soul?  Until you know what drives your soul you shouldn’t select a career or a major in college.

Maybe you don’t even need to go to school.  Who made up that bullshit rule anyway?  Some of the most rich and famous people never went to school and some never even graduated high school.

Passion

Recently I came to a second crossroads in my life.  After working as a workers’ compensation adjuster fraud investigator for the last twenty years I woke up one day realizing, yet again I was no longer happy and I had ended up somewhere I no longer wanted to be.

My job had been tolerable while I was busy trying to  make my relationships work.  But, once those collapsed I was left alone and staring at my existence in the mirror.

Every day was a struggle. I hated my job. I hated the 9-5. I hated being at the mercy of someone else.  Do you know the feeling?  Do you hate what you do? Are you bored? Do you want to make your life more than what it is?

If you want to change your life you can.  Don’t listen to anyone who says you can’t do something.  But, before you make any changes you have to figure out what it is you want and the only way to figure this out is to understand what you are passionate about.

I began reading a number of books, reading blogs and listening to podcasts.  One of the recommended readings was The Passion Test by Janet and Chris Atwood. www.thepassiontest.com

Although not based on the Law of Attraction they discuss many of the same fundamental principles.  Basically, if you figure out what you LOVE and you decide to DO what you love then your life will shift dramatically.

If you begin to live a life of passion for what you do then no longer will negative energy flow into your life.  Passion is positive energy. Living your passion brings about positive energy.

Starting this blog was a move towards living my passion.  Writing and creative writing had always been a joy for me.  Working independently and  being my own boss has become a necessity.  Being able to work from anywhere is another plus.

Moving Forward

What will you do?  Will you keep going down a path not knowing where you are going or where you will end up?  Will you wake up every day hating your job and wishing you had done something different?

Figure out what your passion is. Go after it. There is nothing you can’t do. Remember, both Thomas Edison and Albert Einstein were told they were stupid and would never accomplish anything.  Walt Disney was told he lacked imagination.  Oprah Winfrey was fired from her first reporting job.  Dr. Seuss was rejected by publishers twenty seven times!

What these people have in common is that they never gave up.  They believed in themselves because they believed in their passion.  They lived it and kept trying.

If you want to change, then change.  Every day try something new. Read a new book, listen to a podcast, walk in a new neighborhood, try a new food.  If you aren’t ready for monumental change take baby steps.

But, most importantly discover what your passion is.  Passions change over the years and what may have made you happy before may no longer be working.  Be strong enough to admit this and try something new.

This is your one and only life.  When you are on your deathbed what do you want your story and your legacy to be?  One of monotony and mediocrity or one of success and happiness?  The choice is yours.

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